So What

So What?
It is true you don’t have a degree yet, it is also true that you are not married, you have no car, you haven’t built a house yet and many other things on the to do lists we set ourselves or better yet standards set by our peers or the world…. so what?….

Many of us or should I say quite a number of people feel bad about themselves because they haven’t yet achieved so many things and milestones by a certain date – what society describes as the standard of success.

The ironies of this day; you find a very brilliant lady with good education, a good job, and surrounded by people who love her, but she is unhappy because she is not married. Then another lady on the other side of town is married to a good man, but she is not happy because she has no degree.

This man is married to a hard working lady yet not educated, has a good job, a good car but hasn’t built a house….

Discontentment staring at them right there. How often we tend to project our happiness to what is missing.. “if only I could have that or the other….!” And when we get it, we realize we are still not happy, there’s more to reach for, in order to get maximum happiness. How wrong we are! What then could be missing , why aren’t we happy when we obtain the so-called objects / achievements of our ultimate happiness? It is simple. Celebrate what you have. For the bigger majority, instead of celebrating what we have, society has taught us to be unhappy because of things we don’t have, yet should be having at a certain age, or time. What we don’t realize is that at every level of life, there is something we certaily won’t have. Let it settle in you today, that no one has everything. So now if we concentrate on what we don’t have, we shall continually be sad. It is so true that life is great when you have its treasures, BUT real joy is not in having, but in being content and happy. If happiness was about having this and the other, we would never be happy, because at every moment, there is something we don’t have and would desire to get it. It’s interesting that one man, who has managed to build houses, drives a nice car, and has a good job, is so unhappy because she or he thinks he doesn’t have a perfect body.

That is how life is! You can never have all of your treasures because we desire for more and better each day. The key to happiness in life is in being grateful for who we are while pursuing what we want, be thankful at all times.
Take time to reflect on what you have, decide to celebrate everything you have been blessed with. I have seen people without cars walk proudly and are happy. While on the other hand, a man in an ML is grappling with serious self esteem issues. It’s not in what you have or don’t have, it’s in how you view yourself and what value you attach to your life. Never compare yourself with others, they are also dealing with things under whose weight you would collapse.
Start with what you have and God will bless the works of your hands.